Zen Krystal 4GB music player

July 19, 2008 by icedragon64

Creative’s Zen Krystal sports an onboard pedometer

Jul 18, 2008

This one slipped through the cracks and appeared on Creative’s Hong Kong Web site out of nowhere. While we are still awaiting more availability and pricing details for the Zen Krystal from Creative Singapore, the information posted on the site clearly shows that it’s aimed at sports enthusiasts with its minimalistic yet lightweight design (57 x 37 x 10.8mm; 22g). Which smacks of the company’s earlier Zen Stone Plus with speakers (53.6 x 35.4 x 12.8mm; 18.5).

What’s unique and probably a first for Creative is the built-in pedometer, which allows users to track their workout regime, much like the Nike+iPod Sports Kit. The Zen Krystal also features a stopwatch function, onboard motion-sensing games, FM radio, voice recorder, and promises up to 10 hours of music playback with its built-in rechargeable battery. It comes with 4GB of storage space and a 0.7-inch blue OLED display.

According to the Creative HK Web site, the Zen Krystal is bundled with a pouch, wrist strap with lens cleaning cloth, earphones, USB cable and Quick Start leaflet. It will retail for about HK$698 (US$89.51), which puts it on par with the Zen Stone Plus (with built-in speaker) in terms of pricing.

Nursing Demand Over

July 8, 2008 by icedragon64

Demand for nurses abroad declining
By Sheila Crisostomo
Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Nursing experts yesterday said it is no longer the right time to enroll in nursing courses because of the declining demand for them in countries like the United States and the United Kingdom.

According to Dr. Leah Samaco-Paquiz, president of the Philippine Nursing Association (PNA), the demand for Filipino nurses had “plateaued” in the US since 2006 because of “visa retrogression” there.

“In the US, the quota for visas has been filled up resulting in delayed processing of visas, with current efforts focused on 2006 accepted applicants,” Paquiz said in a press briefing.

The UK, on the other hand, has adopted a labor policy that gives priority to homegrown health workers.

“Many licensed nurses are now underemployed or unemployed as a result of changes of policy in destination countries, the current situation of oversupply and quality problems, among others,” she added.

But despite this situation, Dean Leonora Reyes, vice president of the Association of Deans of Philippine Colleges of Nursing, said they could not discourage people from taking up nursing.

“We cannot tell people not to enroll (in nursing) but they should choose the reputable program that can deliver quality education. They must go to reputable institutions, (the ones that are) accredited because priority is given to those coming from these schools,” Reyes said.

Dr. Marilyn Lorenzo, director of the University of the Philippines’ Institute of Health Policy and Development Studies, recalled that the demand for Filipino nurses began to rise in 1999 but slowed down in 2006.

“We actually thought that this trend would only be good for a decade and, as expected, it already started to slow down,” she claimed.

The boom in nursing is expected to be repeated after 10 years.

The demand for nurses abroad had led to the increased number of nursing schools and graduates in the Philippines.

In 1999, the number of nursing graduates was 5,672 while in 2004 and 2005, the number of graduates were 14,383 and 34,589, respectively.

Lorenzo added that one proof of the declining demand for Filipino nurses abroad was the slowing down of hiring in some of the country’s biggest hospitals.

At the Philippine General Hospital, she said, the turnover rate for employees is 0.83 percent.

The hospital also has a nursing pool of up to 250 qualified nurses who are waiting to be hired.

The Philippine Heart Center, on the other hand, has a nursing pool of 1,500 with a “turnover” rate of 10 percent in 2006, while the St. Luke’s Medical Center has a nursing pool of 300 nurses who have already completed a three-month pre-hire training.

“The evidence is there. There has already been a decreased demand for nurses,” Lorenzo said.

She said the country must take advantage of the 10-year gap to “address the surplus situation” by finding jobs for those unemployed or underemployed and by improving the quality of nursing education.

The End for Pinoy Nurses

July 8, 2008 by icedragon64

Global demand for nurses falling, says PNA

By Katherine Evangelista
INQUIRER.net
First Posted 19:37:00 07/08/2008

MANILA, Philippine — (UPDATE) Local demand for nurses has been stagnant as the need for their services consistently fall in the global labor market, the Philippine Nurses Association (PNA) said Tuesday.

For the last two years, there has been no increase in the domestic demand while global need for licensed nurses has been consistently decreasing since 2004, PNA data shows.

PNA national president Dr. Leah Primitiva Samaco-Paquiz attributed the current trend to policy changes in labor-importing countries and the “oversupply” of nurses amid deteriorating quality of graduates.

Paquiz cited visa retrogression in the United States while the United Kingdom began relying again on local health workers.

The Philippine market for nurses, meanwhile, is now “oversaturated” allowing employers to be “highly selective” in hiring healthcare providers, she said.

Meanwhile, the PNA defended the new nursing curriculum being implemented by the Commission on Higher Education through Memorandum Order No. 5, saying it ensures a “safe, ethical and quality nursing practice.”

The group said the new curriculum will “improve the quality” of nursing education in the Philippines.

The CHEd order directs nursing schools nationwide to add new subjects and increase hospital hours for students. Nursing schools have begun implementing the new curriculum this school year.

Earlier, the PNA opposed CHEd’s plans to “ladderize” the BS Nursing program to accommodate the Practical Nursing course.

Paquiz said the “short cut nursing” program was irrelevant since there is no demand for practical nurses locally or abroad.

Fely Manilyn Lorenzo, dean at the University of the Philippines-Manila, questioned the curriculum of the Practical Nursing program, which she said includes subjects on how to operate microwave ovens and washing machines but does not have important subjects like anatomy and physiology.

The PNA then appealed to CHEd to padlock “fly by night” nursing schools.

Laws on the Job

July 6, 2008 by icedragon64
5 Lifestyle Activities That Can Get You Fire

Can having a bacon double cheeseburger and a cigarette put your job at risk? Maybe. It may sound surprising, but many off-the-job actions and lifestyles could put your job in jeopardy.

Fair Game?

Employment experts point out five key areas that a company may scrutinize:

  • Smoking, drinking, and overeating. Due to the cost of health insurance, more and more employers view “unhealthy” habits as a threat to their bottom line.
  • Risky behavior. Likewise, a company might see your bungee jumping hobby as a liability.
  • Speech. Will your employer consider your blogging to be destructive griping?
  • Romantic relationships. Dating someone at a competitor’s company has landed employees in hot water. And some employers might take issue with unmarried coupling or even same-sex relationships (federal law doesn’t protect employees from discrimination based on real or perceived sexual orientation).
  • Political activity. Volunteering for Obama could be trouble if you have a pro-McCain boss, and vice versa.

Job- or industry-specific behaviors can lead to termination as well. A Ford worker who drives a Toyota is probably safe — unless he or she is president of Ford. But a bank employee who bounces a personal check could get the boot.

Cause or Just Because

If these reasons for termination seem unfair, they must be illegal, right? Not necessarily. Just because most employers don’t let valued employees loose for off-the-job activities and lifestyles, doesn’t mean they can’t.

“Most workers in the private sector don’t understand that, unless they live in Montana and Arizona, their job is at-will,” Paul Secunda, an assistant professor of law at the University of Mississippi, told Yahoo! HotJobs. “At-will means an employee can be fired for good cause or no cause at all,” Secunda said.

Federal job protections include gender, race, religion, and national origin, as well as disability. “Some state laws forbid discrimination on other bases, including sexual orientation, or status as a smoker,” said Rick Bales, a professor at Northern Kentucky University/Chase College of Law. Smokers in the tobacco-growing state of Kentucky, for example, are safe from termination, he said.

Don’t Be Fooled

Although union members and public sector (government) workers generally have more protections, employees in the private sector — the bulk of the U.S. workforce — can be fired at any time, and usually without recourse.

“Unless you were fired because you are a member of a protected class under federal law, or under another state statute, it’s likely not illegal,” said Kimberly Malerba, an associate who litigates employment cases with Ruskin Moscou Faltischek, P.C., a law firm on Long Island, New York.

The good news is that most companies don’t go out of their way to snoop into employees’ lives, Malerba told Yahoo HotJobs. “A company is most concerned with (off-the-job) behaviors that directly conflict with business interests.”

5 Tips to Consider

Legal experts have advice for protecting your job from unexpected dangers:

  • Understand the concept of at-will employment. Don’t assume that termination must be illegal just because you think it was unfair.
  • Be fully aware of your company’s policies and terms of employment. Read the employee handbook, and ask HR if you have any questions.
  • Be familiar with the company’s internal dispute mechanisms (if any) for filing grievances.
  • Think before you act. Could your employer see your actions off the job as potentially destructive to the company?
  • Don’t disclose. “You don’t have to disclose lifestyle choices or off-the-clock activities unless there is a clear link to your ability to perform the job,” Secunda said.

“My general advice is, don’t do anything on your own time that, if reported in the local paper, would reflect poorly on you or your employer,” Bales told Yahoo! HotJobs.

Oil Price

July 6, 2008 by icedragon64
What is keeping oil prices so high?

Despite an emerging global consensus that oil prices are dangerously high, there seems little chance of the cost of oil falling significantly in the near future.

Analysts say measures agreed at Sunday’s crisis summit in Jeddah are unlikely to have a dramatic impact on market trends.

But what is keeping prices close to record levels of almost $140 a barrel?

WEAK US DOLLAR

  • The sharp jump in prices since 2005 has coincided with the plunge in the value of the dollar against other leading currencies
  • Dollar weakness encourages financial investors to look for other more lucrative investment opportunities, with oil top of their list
  • As oil is traded in dollars, it also makes it cheaper to buy
  • Signs the US economy may be on the brink of recession have undermined the dollar, boosting prices. Prices rose $11 on a single day last month when the unemployment rate rose

SUPPLY CONCERNS

  • Analysts say growth in global supplies is worryingly failing to keep pace with growth in demand
  • Supplies from countries such as Russia are thought to have peaked and finding new sources of oil is difficult and expensive
  • Increasing reliance on members of the Middle-East dominated oil producers group Opec, many of which are already pumping as much oil as they can
  • Saudi Arabia is one of few countries with spare capacity but it has been reluctant to boost output substantially

DEMAND GROWTH

  • Global thirst for oil is intense. Demand has risen by about 3 million barrels a day since 2005 and is expected to rise by 32 million barrels a day in the next two decades
  • The US remains the world’s largest oil consumer and high individual fuel usage continues to put pressure on crude stockpiles
  • Fast-growing China and India are forecast to account for 40% of the growth in oil demand by 2030, as industry grows and demand for travel increases

POLITICAL INSTABILITY

  • Much of the world’s oil is concentrated in volatile regions, leading to fears of frequent and unpredictable disruptions to supplies
  • Despite oil output being at a six-year high, Iraq is still beset by violence while militant groups in Nigeria’s main oil-producing region have recently impeded about a quarter of its output
  • Tensions over Iran’s nuclear programme. There are fears that an Israeli attack on Iran’s nuclear installations could trigger a wider conflict and threaten traffic through the strategically vital Strait of Hormuz, used to ship 40% of the world’s oil.

MARKET SPECULATION

  • Oil exporters say the price surge cannot be explained by the fundamental ratio of supply to demand and point their fingers at market speculators
  • It is claimed that some traders are making huge amounts of money betting on the direction of prices, in turn forcing prices higher
  • Others maintain that traders are simply hedging their investments against future market developments to reduce risk
  • US regulators are looking for evidence of market manipulation while the IMF is examining the role of traders in the price spike

Retirement

July 6, 2008 by icedragon64

Your Retirement Checklist

Planning for retirement is a lifelong process. Whether you’re just starting to invest or you’re well into your working years, this checklist can serve as a starting point to help prepare you for this important financial goal.

Before You Start

  • Understand your likely retirement income needs by calculating an updated retirement savings goal.
  • Take a fresh look at the investments you currently hold in your retirement account(s).
  • Consider your ability to tolerate investment risk, keeping in mind that long-term performance potential may compensate for short-term risk potential.
  • Ask your employer which payout options will be available to you when it’s time to withdraw your retirement savings plan assets.

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Your Retirement Checklist

What does an artist and someone planning for his or her later years have in common? Each visualizes their final objective, but the process is fluid. Although your situation is unique, there are basic elements you can use to sketch an effective retirement plan.
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Pointers for the Accumulation Phase

An important action you can take is to determine your retirement needs. This task involves identifying your potential retirement expenses, as well as estimating the amount you might receive from each potential source of retirement income (Social Security, pensions, personal investments, and employment earnings).

Doing this calculation will give you an idea of how much you may need to finance a comfortable retirement. Don’t be surprised if the numbers add up to be a large sum — after all, this money may need to support you for 20 or 30 years. Fortunately, there are ways to leverage your dollars.

Starting early and contributing as much as possible to employer-sponsored retirement plans and IRAs may help you to potentially accumulate more money. Why? Because investing in these tax-advantaged accounts means your money will work harder for you. The longer the money sits untouched, the more it can potentially compound.

Another vital step: Determine an appropriate asset allocation — how you divide your money among stocks, bonds, and cash — for your portfolio. This should be based on your financial goals, tolerance for investment risk, and time horizon. Be aware that your asset allocation will need to be adjusted periodically in response to major market moves or life changes.

Once you’re nearing retirement, it will also be necessary to craft a solid plan for distribution of your assets. For example, do you know one of the greatest risks that retirees face? The possibility of outliving their money, according to the Society of Actuaries.

That’s why it’s essential to determine an appropriate annual withdrawal rate. This amount will be based on your overall assets, the estimated length of your retirement, an assumed annual rate of inflation, and how much your investments might earn each year.

Another consideration: After age 70 1/2, you’ll have to begin making an annual withdrawal from some tax-deferred retirement accounts (known as a required minimum distribution), including traditional IRAs. Preparing for this phase ahead of time may help reduce your tax burden — especially if your annual RMD may push you into a higher tax bracket.

Likewise, this is the time to make sure your final wishes are accurately documented and estate strategies are well underway to minimize your heirs’ tax burden. As you can see, planning for the different phases of retirement is a lifelong process. Following is a list that can help you along the way.
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Retirement Planning Checklist

Find the category that best describes you. After answering the questions, bring the list to a qualified financial professional who can help make sure your retirement plan is on target.

Saving for Retirement
1. Have you performed a comprehensive retirement needs calculation?

2. Are you contributing enough to potentially reach your financial goal within your desired time frame, by maximizing contributions to tax-advantaged retirement accounts, such as your employer-sponsored retirement plan and an IRA?

3. Is your asset allocation aligned with your retirement goal, risk tolerance, and time horizon?

4. Have you determined if you might benefit from contributing to a traditional IRA or a Roth IRA?

5. Do you review your retirement portfolio each year and rebalance your asset allocation if necessary?

Nearing Retirement
1. Do you know the payout options available to you (e.g., annuity or lump sum) with your employer-sponsored retirement account, and have you reviewed the pros and cons of each option?

2. Have you considered your health insurance options, (i.e., Medicare and various Medigap supplemental plans or employer-sponsored health insurance), out-of-pocket medical expenses, and other related health care costs?

3. Have you contacted Social Security to make sure your benefit statement and relevant personal information are accurate?

4. Should you purchase long-term care insurance? If so, have you investigated which benefits are desirable?

5. Is your asset allocation properly adjusted to reflect your need to begin drawing income from your portfolio soon?

6. Have you determined an appropriate withdrawal rate of your assets to help ensure that your retirement money might last 20, 30, or more years?

7. Have you figured the amount of your annual required minimum distribution (RMD) and developed a strategy to reduce your tax burden once you’re required to begin taking RMDs?

8. Have you appointed a health care proxy and durable power of attorney to take charge of your health and financial affairs if you are unable to do so?

9. Have you reviewed all your financial and legal documents to make sure beneficiaries are up-to-date?

10. Are you making effective use of estate planning tools (such as trusts or a gifting strategy) that could reduce your taxable estate and pass along more assets to your heirs while also benefiting you now?
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Summary

  • Planning for retirement is a lifelong process. Determining your retirement needs by identifying your potential retirement expenses and sources of retirement income is an important step.
  • Starting to invest early for retirement and contributing as much as possible to tax-advantaged employer-sponsored retirement plans and IRAs are two ways to leverage your retirement dollars.
  • Determining an appropriate asset allocation — how you divide your money among stocks, bonds, and cash — is a time-tested strategy for helping you pursue your financial goal.
  • It’s essential to determine an appropriate annual withdrawal rate of your assets during retirement so you don’t outlive your money.
  • After age 70 1/2, you must begin making an annual required minimum distribution from certain tax-deferred retirement accounts. Preparing for this phase ahead of time may help reduce your tax burden.
  • Developing an appropriate estate plan is the important final stage of crafting an effective retirement plan.

Checklist

  • Try to accumulate enough emergency savings and insurance coverage so that you can address unexpected financial crises without spending money earmarked for retirement.
  • Update beneficiary designations on all retirement accounts and other financial paperwork.
  • Consider changing the date of your retirement if it would make it easier to retire with enough money for the future.
  • Rebalance your retirement account’s asset allocation if necessary.

Saving Money

July 6, 2008 by icedragon64

SAVING MONEY

When economic times turn tough, governments urge their citizens to spend. Economists think of citizens as “consumers” and rely on them to put their “disposable income” to work. By doing this they will support the economy, which translates into higher stock prices.

However, in times like early 2008, when consumers were reeling from the perfect storm of inflation, a global credit crunch, a global housing market in decline and concerns about stagflation, there is often a conflict with the governmental cry for consumers to spend. It’s a bewildering scenario. What’s the best course of action for a concerned consumer to take? The following strategies provide a road map for surviving economic downturns.

1. Don’t Buy What You Can’t Afford

We all want that designer sweater, leather handbag, or cute sports car, but most of us just can’t afford to make the purchases. There’s a simple solution to this dilemma. If you can’t afford it, don’t buy it. This is often the easiest point to understand, but it is one of the hardest to implement when all those goodies are staring you in the face and all your credit companies are telling you it’s OK.

2. If You Can’t Pay Cash, You Probably Can’t Afford It

In our credit crazy world, amassing debt no longer carries a social stigma. Everybody has a car payment, a house payment and credit card payments. Well, remember what your mother said about everybody jumping off of a bridge? Just because “everybody” is doing it, doesn’t make it a good idea. Buying something you can’t afford now, especially when the economy is unsettled, can double the pain of paying later. For example, if you purchase a $450,000 home today and the market goes into a slump and devalues your home by $200,000, you will be paying the bank twice what the home has come to be worth. Just because it was easy to get the credit to buy that home, doesn’t mean it was the right time for you to buy in.

3. Paying Interest on Anything Makes Somebody Else Rich

When you pay interest on a purchase, you are overpaying for that item for the luxury of getting to use it now. The simple act of paying interest means that the price you are paying to make the purchase is greater than the sale price of the item. You are giving away even more of your hard-earned money in order to own that item than the manufacturer thought the item was worth. For example, if you buy a car for $25,000 with a loan at 7% interest for five years, in the end, you will pay almost $30,000 for the car. Once you factor in depreciation, you’re left with a very cheap car that cost you thousands more than it should have.

4. If You Are in Debt, stop Spending Money

Sometimes, such as when purchasing a home, the cost of the item is so great that you simply cannot afford to pay cash. This should be the exception rather than the rule. When it cannot be avoided, you need to close your purse and stop spending. Getting yourself further it debt doesn’t help your financial situation. Making a realistic budget in this case is the key to success. Once you know how much you’re actually spending on those daily trips to the grocery store and coffee shop, you’ll be able to find room to cut costs realistically.

5. Don’t Count on Somebody Else to Save You

In times of economic uncertainty, people often think the government will be able to help them, but unfortunately this is often the time when the government has the least amount of money and freedom to help its own citizens. In most cases, the government won’t save you, so you’ll have to save yourself. When the economy is in a downturn, you can’t just look at what you are spending, you also need to look at where the money is coming from. Your employer is facing the same difficulties you are: trying to make bill payments, balancing the flow of capital, all while sales are slowing. Just like you, your employer will be looking to reduce its costs, which could be in the form of layoffs. You could be in big trouble if you haven’t planned for this possibility. The plan here is to start saving now for that eventual rainy day, and prepare an emergency fund for yourself. If it is too late to start saving and you already need the money, many financial institutions will let you defer a payment or two if you prove you have a smart financial plan to eventually pull through.

When People Don’t Spend

But wait! If we’re all hanging on to our money rather than feeding the economy, what will happen? Will stock prices plummet? Will economic growth grind to a halt? Will we all be poor? No. For a real world example of this, let’s take a look at Japan, where saving more than consuming has been commonplace in its people’s history.

While being a net lender is a concept that the West abandoned some time after World War II, it continued to be practiced in Japan. During the mid-1970s, Reuters reports that Japanese consumers saved some 20% of their disposable incomes. During Japan’s economic slump in the 1990s, the Nikkei 225 fell from a peak of 39,000 in 1989 to 16,000 in 1992. Gross domestic product growth averaged less than 1% per year, but personal savings remained in the double digits. Although the unemployment rate rose from less than 2.5% in 1990 to just under 5% in 2000, with an average of 3% percent according to the U.S. Department of Labor, it still remained lower than the rate in most industrialized nations. The net result? Japan remained a healthy, vibrant, wealthy country with a poorly performing stock market. If you’ve got savings and a smart financial plan, a weak market won’t break you.

Live Now Like You Face Tough Times

These five strategies work equally well when times are good, so there is no need to wait until you are in trouble to start making smart decisions.Your lifestyle will be characterized by things you can actually afford, such as a house that won’t get repossessed, a car that might not impress the neighbors but will still get you to work and back, and long, restful nights free from financial worries. It might not be the fairytale lifestyle of the rich and famous that corporate marketers having been trying sell you, but at least you won’t have to worry about how to keep up on the payments for a lifestyle you can’t afford.

Too many nurses

June 17, 2008 by icedragon64

Too Many Nurses

Posted date: June 17, 2008

Our son decided to treat us on Father’s Day with a blow-out, at the same time celebrating his new job and a new paycheck. As I took my seat at the restaurant, I was startled when I got a good look at our server. Not only did she look familiar, but the last time I saw her, she was in a nurse’s uniform.It turned out that our server, a classmate of my son’s in high school, was indeed the nursing student I’d chatted with when we went to visit my son’s girlfriend who’d been hospitalized for dengue. And she was working in the restaurant to help out the family, since her parents owned this particular branch.

I’d been told that she had already passed the nursing exams and was waiting to get accepted for a post abroad. But was she still working in the hospital where I saw her? I asked. “No, I work here every day,” she said. “Most local hospitals have put a freeze on hiring nurses.”

Her statement got lost amid the hubbub of the family dinner, but I got to thinking about her plight later. For one, it struck me as strange that local hospitals would call a temporarily halt to new nursing hires. Months ago, the media were all agog about stories of the “brain drain” among health professionals, especially doctors and nurses, who were migrating in droves for better pay abroad. There was much speculation about the impact of such departures on our health system. Would there be enough doctors and nurses left here to look after the health needs of Filipinos, even those who could afford to pay hospital charges and professional fees?

But I remember a remark made by a Filipino doctor recently, who sought to quiet my concerns about the migration of health workers by declaring: “There are more nurses here than can find jobs.”

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We have come to a point, it seems, where the supply of new nursing graduates, which has been building up the last few years due to increased demand abroad, has resulted in a glut of jobless nurses.

While it’s getting more difficult to find openings for nursing positions in the desired locales—the US, Canada and the UK, among the top destinations—local hospitals that in previous years had been complaining about the lack of qualified personnel are now enjoying the luxury of picking and choosing from among thousands of applicants.

Is it possible that Filipino families have, once again, over-reacted to a temporary bump in demand in the foreign job market and “over-produced” a supply of the needed workers? This isn’t the first time that those in the tail-end of a job trend have ended up on the short end of the employment stick. Decades ago, this happened to aspiring nurses, and then to medical technicians, physical therapists, caregivers and now it seems to be happening to nurses again.

We aren’t even talking about those who’ve gone through the requisite nursing course only to fail the licensure exams. Much of the blame for the poor showing of nursing graduates—with the percentage of passing exam takers falling steadily—has been heaped on the growing number of nursing schools, many of which have been able to give only cursory training to their students.

The end result could only be a buildup of frustration and restlessness among our young people, who go through years of grueling and expensive training only to find their employment prospects dashed. Perhaps better human resources planning and investment could prevent this cycle of glut and joblessness that afflicts us with dismaying regularity.

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We get a taste of what such frustrations can lead to in the movie “Caregiver,” in which Sharon Cuneta portrays a teacher-turned-caregiver who joins her husband in London so they can save enough to get their son to join them.

Among the characters is a doctor who re-trained as a nurse so he could more easily find work in the UK, as well as John Estrada as Sharon’s nurse-husband. Both men find that there is more to career and personal satisfaction than earning a big salary or buying the latest consumer gewgaws. The doctor is fired from his post in the hospital when he disputes a Brit doctor’s diagnosis to save a patient’s life. While Estrada’s character cannot find a position as a nurse because he has too much “attitude,” and is consigned instead to work as a janitor, which position gnaws at his self-esteem.

Sharon’s character, in fact, finds it difficult to transition from her teaching job to her new post “cleaning the poo-poo of old people,” as a pupil of hers declares. But she offers an answer to both her husband and his friend, protesting the meanness of an elderly patient by averring that “I care about my family, I care about my work, I care about you.” With her patient’s help, she realizes that no matter how seemingly demeaning, the work entailed in looking after people is still important, and that personal fulfillment is as important as the “pounds” one earns.

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Another aspect of the immigrant worker experience explored in “Caregiver” is how migration and the need to earn more money is often used to mask an untenable relationship.

A ne’er-do-well who could never give his family a stable existence back home, Estrada’s character leaves in search of greener pastures abroad, unaware that even in his new locale, his basic weakness of character would work against him. His wife follows, but to her dismay discovers that the grown boy she married, self-centered and selfish, has remained unchanged despite the new setting. Indeed, as women overseas workers have shared, many of them sought to escape unhappy marriages or weak husbands by working abroad. They maintain the façade of a happy family, while keeping a safe distance from the source of their unhappiness.

Affairs Prevention

May 26, 2008 by icedragon64

8 Ways to Affair-Proof Your Marriage

By Therese J. Borchard
Beliefnet

Updated: May 26, 2008

Therese J. Borchard
According to Peggy Vaughan, the author of “The Monogamy Myth,” 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in their marriage. In other words, the person who stays monogamous within her marriage is among a growing minority.
Twelve years into my marriage, I can appreciate that statistic. Eric and I are getting to the hard part, where the pressing responsibilities of raising kids and growing two careers could easily blow apart the vows we recited on our wedding day.
Because I want my marriage to stay on the happy side of the statistics, I’ve gathered these tips for how to make marriage absolutely affair-proof.
1. Nurture Safe Friendships: This is the most important affair-preventer in my life.

“No marriage can give you everything.”

No marriage can give you everything. A husband is going to have interests that his wife will never care about like fishing, hunting, or golfing. So he’s less likely to stray if he can find some good guy buddies with whom to fish, hunt, and golf.

2. Recognize the Drug: Depressives and addicts are especially prone to affairs because of the head rush that comes with infatuation. The spikes in dopamine and norepinephrine we experience upon connecting with someone new fools us into thinking that the sexy man or attractive woman at the bar holds the key to our nirvana and the end to our problems. This is the same as, say, the high from cocaine. Recognizing that that rush is not real, meaningful, or lasting, can help a married person to “just say no.”

3. Keep Dating: I’m serious here. Visiting with your spouse with some regularity–just the two of you and no one else–will bring some very definite rewards to a marriage. By dating, you will learn how to talk to each other again.

In her book, “Mating in Captivity,” Esther Perel urges a client to imagine her spouse as if she has just met him, to put him into that mysterious category again. This is really hard when you got a little one screaming, “Wipe me!” from the bathroom. However, when you can pull it off, I find her theory very effective.
4. Find a Creative Outlet: People get lured into emotional and physical affairs because the infatuation provides an exciting, stimulating place where they are energized.
So to stay affair-proof, you have to find other sources of stimulation and excitement. For me, my blog is that outlet. I can’t wait to log on each day to see what all of my dear readers have to say. When I get overwhelmed by the domestic chaos of our lives, Beyond Blue provides me that outlet where I can create something new, where I can run away, however temporarily, from the stress.
5. Hang Out with Happy Couples: If you’re hanging with a bunch of guys (or girls) that see nothing wrong with sleeping around, you are much more likely to do it yourself. The good news is that the opposite is also true. If you have a set of friends committed to their marriages, you will be less likely to cheat on your spouse.
6. Learn How to Fight: Wait before saying something really ugly, and make sure you weren’t tired or hungry, or in a stressful situation. I’m not saying that you can’t confront your spouse if you’re tired, hungry, or stressed, because then we’d live in a silent world. But, it’s a good idea to recognize situations that tend to accelerate arguments.
7. Be Nice and Listen: “Duh,” you’re saying to yourself. But think about it. This is the hardest part about marriage. Listening. Keeping your mouth closed when the other person is talking.
In my conversations with men and women who have had affairs, the number one reason for pursuing the affair was this: “She listened to me. I mattered to him.”
8. Remember These Tools: Never forget that you have a toolbox of resources to draw on when you feel tempted by an extramarital affair. Here are some tools offered to me by those healing from affairs, insights to keep in mind when you feel that familiar head rush and are tempted to abandon logic for a thrill:
  • Don’t go there: Don’t put yourself in a threatening situation. Skip the conference in Hawaii with the colleague who flirts with you. If you absolutely have to go, avoid all opportunities to be alone with him.
  • You’ve got mail: When you don’t know if your email crosses the line into appropriate language, send it to yourself first. Read it again, and ask yourself: would I feel comfortable showing this to my husband?
  • Dress with intentions: One woman told me that she saved her lingerie for her husband, and wore the ratty old underwear to the high-school reunion where she’d see a flame from the past.
  • Talk about your spouse: A guy friend told me that whenever he is alone with a woman he finds attractive and things are getting uncomfortable, he’ll start talking about his wife–what her hobbies are, and how much he loves her. It immediately kills the mood.
  • Peak oil & Survivalists

    May 25, 2008 by icedragon64

    Energy fears looming, new survivalists prepare

    By SAMANTHA GROSS, Associated Press Writer Posted Sat May 24, 2008 11:12am PDT

    Peter Laskowski stacks firewood at his remote home in Waitsfield, Vt., Friday, April 11, 2008. Convinced that the planet’s oil supply is dwindling and the world’s economies are heading for a crash, people around the country are moving onto homesteads, learning to live off their land, conserving fuel and, in some cases, stocking up on guns they expect to use to defend themselves and their supplies from desperate crowds of people who didn’t prepare. (AP Photo/Toby Talbot)

    BUSKIRK, N.Y. - A few years ago, Kathleen Breault was just another suburban grandma, driving countless hours every week, stopping for lunch at McDonald’s, buying clothes at the mall, watching TV in the evenings.

    That was before Breault heard an author talk about the bleak future of the world’s oil supply. Now, she’s preparing for the world as we know it to disappear.

    Breault cut her driving time in half. She switched to a diet of locally grown foods near her upstate New York home and lost 70 pounds. She sliced up her credit cards, banished her television and swore off plane travel. She began relying on a wood-burning stove.

    “I was panic-stricken,” the 50-year-old recalled, her voice shaking. “Devastated. Depressed. Afraid. Vulnerable. Weak. Alone. Just terrible.”

    Convinced the planet’s oil supply is dwindling and the world’s economies are heading for a crash, some people around the country are moving onto homesteads, learning to live off their land, conserving fuel and, in some cases, stocking up on guns they expect to use to defend themselves and their supplies from desperate crowds of people who didn’t prepare.

    The exact number of people taking such steps is impossible to determine, but anecdotal evidence suggests that the movement has been gaining momentum in the last few years.

    These energy survivalists are not leading some sort of green revolution meant to save the planet. Many of them believe it is too late for that, seeing signs in soaring fuel and food prices and a faltering U.S. economy, and are largely focused on saving themselves.

    Some are doing it quietly, giving few details of their preparations — afraid that revealing such information as the location of their supplies will endanger themselves and their loved ones. They envision a future in which the nation’s cities will be filled with hungry, desperate refugees forced to go looking for food, shelter and water.

    “There’s going to be things that happen when people can’t get things that they need for themselves and their families,” said Lynn-Marie, who believes cities could see a rise in violence as early as 2012.

    Lynn-Marie asked to be identified by her first name to protect her homestead in rural western Idaho. Many of these survivalists declined to speak to The Associated Press for similar reasons.

    These survivalists believe in “peak oil,” the idea that world oil production is set to hit a high point and then decline. Scientists who support idea say the amount of oil produced in the world each year has already or will soon begin a downward slide, even amid increased demand. But many scientists say such a scenario will be avoided as other sources of energy come in to fill the void.

    On the PeakOil.com Web site, where upward of 800 people gathered on recent evenings, believers engage in a debate about what kind of world awaits.

    Some members argue there will be no financial crash, but a slow slide into harder times. Some believe the federal government will respond to the loss of energy security with a clampdown on personal freedoms. Others simply don’t trust that the government can maintain basic services in the face of an energy crisis.

    The powers that be, they’ve determined, will be largely powerless to stop what is to come.

    Determined to guard themselves from potentially harsh times ahead, Lynn-Marie and her husband have already planted an orchard of about 40 trees and built a greenhouse on their 7 1/2 acres. They have built their own irrigation system. They’ve begun to raise chickens and pigs, and they’ve learned to slaughter them.

    The couple have gotten rid of their TV and instead have been reading dusty old books published in their grandparents’ era, books that explain the simpler lifestyle they are trying to revive. Lynn-Marie has been teaching herself how to make soap. Her husband, concerned about one day being unable to get medications, has been training to become an herbalist.

    By 2012, they expect to power their property with solar panels, and produce their own meat, milk and vegetables. When things start to fall apart, they expect their children and grandchildren will come back home and help them work the land. She envisions a day when the family may have to decide whether to turn needy people away from their door.

    “People will be unprepared,” she said. “And we can imagine marauding hordes.”

    So can Peter Laskowski. Living in a woodsy area outside of Montpelier, Vt., the 57-year-old retiree has become the local constable and a deputy sheriff for his county, as well as an emergency medical technician.

    “I decided there was nothing like getting the training myself to deal with insurrections, if that’s a possibility,” said the former executive recruiter.

    Laskowski is taking steps similar to environmentalists: conserving fuel, consuming less, studying global warming, and relying on local produce and craftsmen. Laskowski is powering his home with solar panels and is raising fish, geese, ducks and sheep. He has planted apple and pear trees and is growing lettuce, spinach and corn.

    Whenever possible, he uses his bicycle to get into town.

    “I remember the oil crisis in ‘73; I remember waiting in line for gas,” Laskowski said. “If there is a disruption in the oil supply it will be very quickly elevated into a disaster.”

    Breault said she hopes to someday band together with her neighbors to form a self-sufficient community. Women will always be having babies, she notes, and she imagines her skills as a midwife will always be in demand.

    For now, she is readying for the more immediate work ahead: There’s a root cellar to dig, fruit trees and vegetable plots to plant. She has put a bicycle on layaway, and soon she’ll be able to bike to visit her grandkids even if there is no oil at the pump.

    Whatever the shape of things yet to come, she said, she’s done what she can to prepare.